A bride recently asked me, “How well do you get along with the photographer?”

This is a must-ask question for videographers and photographers during your booking process, because it has an enormous impact on your entire wedding day. However, it's a question that's often missed during the vetting process. 

Why do you need to ask your videographer and photographer if they get along? Because these two are the only vendors that are with you for your entire wedding day. It’s important that YOU get along with them. It’s also important that they get along with each other, or at the very least respect each other’s space, because there's only get one chance to get the most important shots.

Weddings are high tension jobs. Because of this, friction can develop between your videographer and photographer if their work styles differ. You have enough to think about on your wedding day. You don’t want the extra hassle of wondering, "Are my vendors are playing nicely with each other, or are they struggling with each other to get the same shot?"

Because they're with you every step of your wedding day—even if you don't see the tension between the videographer and photographer, you'll definitely feel it. These two vendors need to work seamlessly as a team to ensure you have the best experience possible and stay on time while doing it. This is why it’s critical that you ask if they get along before you book your vendors.

Nip uncertainty in the bud.

One of the most important steps in my process is to reach out to photographers I'm unfamiliar with before your wedding day. I introduce myself, talk about my team, and discuss our collective working styles. Even if the photographer has a bias against videographers, this goodwill gesture goes a long way towards a more peaceful coexistence come your wedding day. In the end, we all have an understanding that there's a job to do. And the day will proceed with much greater precision and ease if we all work together.

Although we have different roles to play in your wedding, the end goal is the same: a happy couple. And that's a win-win for everyone!

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About the blogger: Sean Caughey is a videographer with Harborview Studios on Cape Cod.